Amanda didn't change her last name when she married. I never changed mine, but it was entirely up to her what she chose to do. She has had lots of academic success in her maiden name that will be important while she works on her PhD at Berkeley next year. (In French Lit.) Not changing her name started me thinking about what a huge responsibility giving a child a name is. Her brothers' names are Nicholas and Zachary. If I had any idea that I would ever have a girl, she would have had a "Z" name - perhaps Zoe. But I used the "Z" name for Zachary and she would have been Cameron, since I was absolutely convinced that I was having another boy. My husband has said that the most surprised he has ever seen me was when (after 40 hours of labor) (no sympathy, please - I got a baby out of that weekend, and that's all that matters now), they told me "It's a girl!"
And more about the wedding. Isn't that bouquet wonderful? My niece Amy did the flowers for the wedding, even though she is due any minute with a girl of her own, and couldn't travel to it. My brother Tony played guitar and my brother Don performed the Lutheran Ceremony. My sister Lynne scoped out the vista and my nephew Eric did pictures. My point, and I do have one, is that there's nothing like a family pulling together to make a memorable occasion.
PS: Does anyone remember that old (1949) Susan Hayward movie, Tulsa? (Filmed in Ada, OK.)